Going through a divorce or separation isn’t going to be easy for any
couple. Inevitably, there is going to be a wave of emotions such as stress,
some guilt, grieving, and in most cases anger, which could lead to a bitter
battle between the partners.
Along with all these overwhelming emotions, divorce also involves
massive legal expenses, prolonged conflict, and high levels of stress which
ultimately harms both the parents as well as the children. Fortunately, there
are ways of managing separation in a healthy way without destroying the
functionality of the family relationships. The divorce and separation team at
Alfred James & Co Solicitors LLP aims to serve these goals by supporting
partners and their children to cope with divorce and separation in a less
emotionally and mentally straining manner.
To start with, here are 5 healthy strategies to consider when going
through divorce and separation:
1.
Know that it is all right to have different feelings
When going through a separation it is normal to feel angry, sad,
confused, frustrated and exhausted and all these may feel really intense,
making you feel anxious about the future. One common danger is to live in
denial and never really give yourself time to get over them.
These feelings are certainly inevitable, but when you accept those
reactions, knowing that they will soon fade over time, it becomes easier for
you to remain calm, focus, have control, and make better choices for yourself
and your children.
If at any time you feel you that cannot cope with certain aspects of the
separation process, you can rely on a divorce and separation solicitor for
guidance and implementation of legal steps.
2.
Carefully Prepare Your Agenda
Work with your solicitor to fully understand the divorce procedure and
find out what key requirements and key dates are. This will help you get a full
grasp of the process and carefully estimate when the matter is likely to be
finalized.
3.
Always Keep Your Children On Top Priority
Divorce and separation create emotional turmoil for children and leave
them feeling overwhelmed, confused, and emotionally sensitive. This impact can
persist in the children for the long term, potentially their whole life, if the
situation is not taken care of properly. So, even if you don’t want to see your
ex-partner, continue to co-parent your children as best as you can.
When creating your divorce settlement, it’s important to ensure that it
protects the interest, needs, and requirements of your children.
4.
Be objective and realistic
The divorce and separation solicitor can help educate you with family
laws and regulations, provide you with insight into legal precedent and even
advise you of various options for settlement. So, when you have to go through a
divorce, collaborate with your legal team and work within what is possible. Be
reasonable and realistic about your demands and goals.
5.
Don’t go through divorce and separation alone!
Initiating the process of divorce and separation can be stressful and
challenging. With all these different emotions you have to deal with, it can be
easy to make mistakes, resulting in lifelong regrets. So, let our experienced team
here at Alfred James & Co Solicitors help you prevent those mistakes. We
will help you go through the process smoothly and make sure your goals and
objectives are achieved. Contact us today.