Healthy strategies for coping with separation and divorce

 

Going through a divorce or separation isn’t going to be easy for any couple. Inevitably, there is going to be a wave of emotions such as stress, some guilt, grieving, and in most cases anger, which could lead to a bitter battle between the partners.

Along with all these overwhelming emotions, divorce also involves massive legal expenses, prolonged conflict, and high levels of stress which ultimately harms both the parents as well as the children. Fortunately, there are ways of managing separation in a healthy way without destroying the functionality of the family relationships. The divorce and separation team at Alfred James & Co Solicitors LLP aims to serve these goals by supporting partners and their children to cope with divorce and separation in a less emotionally and mentally straining manner.

To start with, here are 5 healthy strategies to consider when going through divorce and separation:

1.     Know that it is all right to have different feelings

When going through a separation it is normal to feel angry, sad, confused, frustrated and exhausted and all these may feel really intense, making you feel anxious about the future. One common danger is to live in denial and never really give yourself time to get over them.

These feelings are certainly inevitable, but when you accept those reactions, knowing that they will soon fade over time, it becomes easier for you to remain calm, focus, have control, and make better choices for yourself and your children.

If at any time you feel you that cannot cope with certain aspects of the separation process, you can rely on a divorce and separation solicitor for guidance and implementation of legal steps.

2.     Carefully Prepare Your Agenda

Work with your solicitor to fully understand the divorce procedure and find out what key requirements and key dates are. This will help you get a full grasp of the process and carefully estimate when the matter is likely to be finalized.

3.     Always Keep Your Children On Top Priority

Divorce and separation create emotional turmoil for children and leave them feeling overwhelmed, confused, and emotionally sensitive. This impact can persist in the children for the long term, potentially their whole life, if the situation is not taken care of properly. So, even if you don’t want to see your ex-partner, continue to co-parent your children as best as you can.

When creating your divorce settlement, it’s important to ensure that it protects the interest, needs, and requirements of your children.

4.     Be objective and realistic

The divorce and separation solicitor can help educate you with family laws and regulations, provide you with insight into legal precedent and even advise you of various options for settlement. So, when you have to go through a divorce, collaborate with your legal team and work within what is possible. Be reasonable and realistic about your demands and goals.

5.     Don’t go through divorce and separation alone!

Initiating the process of divorce and separation can be stressful and challenging. With all these different emotions you have to deal with, it can be easy to make mistakes, resulting in lifelong regrets. So, let our experienced team here at Alfred James & Co Solicitors help you prevent those mistakes. We will help you go through the process smoothly and make sure your goals and objectives are achieved. Contact us today.